The purpose of DAC is to connect you with your creativity and help you to break rules so you will have the ability to strengthen the connection with your client from your own authenticity. Making your coaching stand out, generating your own structures and evoking the authenticity of your clients by using your own style is what we guarantee that you will practice during the post-graduate DAC course—and what we consider to be Advanced Coaching.
To that end, you will learn powerful structures developed by Clark Friedrichs and proven by Green Light GO in many different contexts. These structures were inspired by different schools and methologies of Co-Active Training Institute, CRR Global Coaching Relationships and Strozzi Institute Somatic Coaching, among others. Nevertheless to do Advanced Coaching, doesn’t consist of only to be strategic or designing creative structures. Advanced Coaching implies, above all, to call out the authenticity of the client from your own authenticity.
The dynamics are what the coach can do and are important, but the being of the coach is the foundation and is from there where the coach can evoke the being of the client. In this post-graduate—above all—you will explore advanced skills that are what make these Advanced Coaching Dynamics and others that you create on your own very effective.
This strategic formula will permit you to help your client define a goal and embody it by establishing a circuit of workspace where the client will remember their internal and external resources and find out what obstacles impede them to that goal.
This dynamic uses movement and the exploration of the space among other things. This helps create mental structures in 3 dimensions. Our body, the environment, objects that are around both the coach and client exist in 3 dimensions.
To bring out the mental representations of your client in three dimensions is a way to tangibilize their desires, their fears, their beliefs and also their capabilities invoking their body. Facing each of these mental contructions that are represented by objects help to mobilize the nervious system and give your clients new information and resources they didn’t have before.
During the process of doing the DMF, you will see how important it is to challenge and acknowledge your client. To be direct and confront them and question them without “beating around the bush” so to speak. And you will see the effective examples of these basic skills—essential to coaching—depends on the ability of the coach to calibrate in the moment the intensity to take charge in service of your client. Not too much or too little. The experience of coaching is to make the resonant space that exists between what is too much and what isn’t enough.
Advanced Coaching Skills:
During our training as coaches we learned that the coach must coach the client, not the saboteur. This makes sense because it is essential to not confuse the voices of one and the other. But in this course we continue to break the rules!
This time, the saboteur will be our client. The saboteur, our internal critic, has its own personality, it way of talking and its own purpose. By establishing a dialog with this part of us which in the end could include an alliance, we help our clients to clearly distinguish and be able to negotiate with the intention to integrate this part into the whole person.
This work is especially useful when the client doesn’t have their saboteur clearly identified or when their saboteur is taking charge of the situation and the client is in a direct fight with it.
The power of this work is based on the effective dialogue between one and the other. Without fighting and without yielding, we can recognized and combine them. The skill to combine and align is another Advanced Coaching Skill that we will explore.
Many times the saboteur has been with the client for a long time and your client and the old fight and frustration that comes from being against this part of the person has a profound negative impact on the client. Clients are right to fight but the saboteur also has its purpose and perspective and it is possible that it has been hurt as well. In those cases we must first normalize it. Normalize with empathy and compassion and observe the signals that is show us what the intention is between the client and their saboteur.
The initial disfunction of the relationship between our client and their saboteur can be considered the “primary”. When you work with your clients in the way, it is good to put your attention there and normalize it, honoring this primary all the while being aware of what is happening between them through this dialogue which means a “secondary” is emerging. This is the place where it will be possible to integrate and continue moving forward together.
Advanced Coaching Skills:
Since you can’t be the shadow of your client—something we will talk about in the next course—the majority of the time the coach will not be present when your clients are facing their challenges they brought to the coaching sessions. This is the actions that they are taking.
When your client feels stuck in their daily life just thinking about a difficult conversation they need to have or have been avoiding for some time, you as a coach can practice with them—not just have them feel prepared for it.
This Advanced Dynamic gives you a concrete structure to bring real situations into the coaching space whether it be virtual or in the office. It permits them to practice with you in a safe space and learn from the experience.
This is a dynamic that requires courage on the part of the coach to put them in the role that they will represent the person that the client need to have a conversation or confront the problem head on, without delay.
The effectiveness of this technique is to create a safe space of experimenting and have the courage to step into the role play as an actor. Following the steps of this dynamic and the rules that permit the client to become aware of how they are being in the face of this challenging situation. You have to use all the skills that we have talked about including the following: